Question about meeting a man with autism…..
I know today was Valentine’s Day but—as it also turned out to be a snow day with my son Charlie home from school—slush, ice and what the streets in Jersey City are going to be like tomorrow morning took precedence over Cupid and chocolates in my thinking. Nonetheless: Back towards the end of January, L left this comment and I really have to apologize to her for my tardy response to her question. I hope it is not too late if any readers pose any answers to her query…….
I’m a “neurotypical” girl (I guess that’s the correct term for myself based on what I’ve read.) and I think I’m falling for a man I met online who has Autism. We live close to the same city and we have mutual friends. Is it normal for me to be nervous about meeting him? I personally feel that it’s normal because I’m nervous about meeting any new person. I just can’t distinguish whether it’s because he’s new to me or if it’s because he has autism. I would like to think it’s just because he’s new to me but I’m not sure. Please don’t think I’m superficial. After all, I’m falling for him based on his awesome personality and not because of some shallow pursuit. I’m really confused right now but I am certainly dead set on meeting him because we have so much in common and we love talking to each other. Any information that you all could give me would be much appreciated!
Thank you.
2 opinions for Question about meeting a man with autism…..
Rochelle
Feb 15, 2007 at 12:41 am
I don’t think it’s “wrong” for you to be nervous about meeting him b/c he has autism. It’s not that different from meeting someone who’s a neatfreak or someone with an MBA. We’re often nervous about meeting people who are “different” from ourselves.
Being autistic is just a part of who he is. The point though is that you want to meet him. I would be more concerned if you didn’t want to meet him b/c he was autistic.
FYI–Major kuddos for reading around on the blog about autism and learning about it. While I don’t know you personally, I think it speaks a lot about your character.
Good luck with your future pursuits. I hope it all works out well for you… :)
natalia
Feb 15, 2007 at 11:43 am
I think it’s natural to be nervous meeting someone new, too.
You might want to check out these links:
http://thiswayoflife.org/relating.html
http://thiswayoflife.org/friendship.html
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